I work. I take care of the kids. I clean the house. I do the
laundry. I cook. I take care of you. I tell you I love you. I make time for
you. I let you pick the movie. I let you have you-time.
You said you love me. You let me have a little time to
myself. You asked how my day went.
Obviously, I’m a better spouse than you are. I love you
more. I am working harder, trying harder. The score is 10 to 3 – it’s pretty
obvious who is winning here…
How often do we tend to get like this? Not just with our
spouse – we do this with friends, co-workers, people in our church. We like to
think we’re doing more in our relationships and responsibilities than the other
person/people. We like to keep score.
There are a few problems with this. First – in some cases,
we really don’t know how much the other person is actually doing. But
regardless if we do know everything or not, it is not fair to compare. Are you
doing these things out of true love, caring, and generosity? Or are you doing
them to simply be the better person… to win some non-existent game?
Are we babysitting the children of a friend, and helping
them out with yard work or financial issues or personal problems because we
actually care about our friend? Or, when they are unable to return the favors
we’ve done, are we comparing and keeping score. Are we saying “well, I’ve done
this and this and this. And she can’t even be bothered to do something for me?”
No one wins when we play that game. No one wins when we
start keeping score. Resentment builds, distance grows, and eventually
relationships wither.
Today’s Lenten sacrifice:
Stop keeping score!
Imagine if God kept score. Imagine if God looked down on you
and thought “Okay, the score is 50,000 to 10. I’m done helping until she gives
me a little more.” Thankfully, we have a God who does not keep score – a God
who continues to help us and forgive us and love us, and continue doing so
forever.
And this is how we should be to one another. We need to
continue helping those in need and loving those in our lives – unconditionally.
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