As Christians, we know that it is not the works we do which
makes God love us. God is love. God already loves us and loves us
unconditionally. It is through this love that we do good works. It is because
we are loved that we love others and try to keep his commandments (at least,
most of the time). We sometimes fail – but God’s love doesn’t.
But we don’t seem to take this same concept into our own
human relationships. While I will use spouse for simplicity in this post, what
I write here is relevant for any relationship – our love for our parents, our
children, our friends, our significant other.
We try to love our spouse unconditionally. We expect our
spouse to love us the same way. Unfortunately, while we may believe we do have
that unconditional love, we just sit in that understanding without doing
anything. We get selfish. We are selfish.
He loves me. I don’t have to try, so I’m not going to try. I’m
not going to show him the love he deserves. I’m going to keep acting how I do.
He’s always going to love me anyway.
This isn’t what love is about.
Just as we show love because of, and through, the love God
already has for us; so should we be doing for our spouse. Yes, be comforted in
the fact that you are loved unconditionally. Be comforted in knowing that you
can screw up, you can get into fights, you can be imperfect. But through that
love you are to, in return, love.
Today’s Lenten sacrifice:
Let go of expecting love and feeling you don’t have to do anything in return.
Do some extra chores, out of the love you have for and
because of the love you receive from, your spouse. Take yourself out of your
own little world for and because of that love you share. Be present and mindful
of their feelings. Go the extra distance.
You aren’t doing these things to get love. You’re doing them
because you already have that love. You should want to do these things.
You should want to move out of your own selfishness because you are
receiving selfless love in return.
Just as we love because God loves us, so should we love
because our spouse loves us.
May we all learn from the love of God, and bring that
knowledge and understanding into our own relationships, to strengthen and
preserve them. May we all learn to remind the person who loves us that they too
are loved – not because of what they do, but because of genuine, mutual, unconditional
love.
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